July 27, 2010

RIP Grandpa

It's been a trying two weeks. Two days after my last post I got a call saying that my grandfather was dead unexpectedly. Then suddenly he wasn't dead after all.  Then several hours later he WAS dead. It was a strange and horrible roller coaster of hospitals, nurses, doctors, friends, family, strangers, police and more. 

I'll probably write about it eventually, but then again, maybe not.  I've not written much about my lovely, vibrant niece who was murdered. I didn't write much about my grandmother (with the exception of her hospital stay) or uncle dying - one expected, one unexpected. I don't usually write about sad things on this blog.

On the other hand, sad things are part of life and I'm beginning to think maybe I'm not being totally honest by simply trying to be funny all the time. On the other other hand, does anybody care about reality? Probably so since reality TV is big.  But on the other other other hand, is that really reality?

You can see the state I'm in.

All this is my way of saying I'm here, but not here. No plans to take a formal hiatus and yet I feel like I'm on a hiatus.  But I've not forgotten here, or you, or anything.


  1. Oh, Wendy. I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. That's terrible. I'm keeping you and your family in my thoughts.

    The thing about reality TV is that it is not reality. That's why people like it. People use it to escape their reality and they love the drama. It's a strange thing.
    I love your humor, but you have to be able to let go sometimes.

  2. Wendy, I'm so sorry. Sudden heartbreak is hard to come to term with all at once. My thoughts are with you and yours.

    Your humor is wonderful! I've feel that blogging is a bit like therapy. Whatever you choose to or not to share you have lots of support from your blog friends.


  3. Wendy,
    I am so sorry for your loss and I will be thinking of you and your family. I feel the same way sometimes when it comes to blogging. Hang in there.

  4. I am very sorry for your loss. All I can say is - if you wish to write about it, write it. If not, do not. I often find writing to be very cathartic (even in a humor blog such as we both have). Writing on such an issue can feel like having surgery. However, a person has surgery when something needs to come out. I have no doubt the lives of your readers will be touched regardless of your subject (as usual).



  5. I think the things I find funniest about your blog are the realities of your life. You have such an amazing eye for finding humor in your own life! I am sorry to hear of your loss. I hope you find peace and healing... And maybe along the way, some humor...

  6. I am very sorry about your loss...I know I am new here but we have all had loss at one time or another, so I can understand. I also think that you should write about what you feel a need to:) We will listen.

  7. Oh my gosh, I am so sorry about your loss. I lost my grandfather on Thursday- and I've been feeling horribly. I don't know whether I want to blog about it or not, either... It seems personal. And now I'm here preparing his powerpoint projection for his ceremony in two days... :( sorry again, I hope you feel better.

  8. Hi Wendy - I am sorry to hear about your Grandpa. I don't know if you will or should write about it, but if anyone could find some humour in a family bereavement, it would be you. Peace and happiness to you and all the family.

  9. Sorry to hear about your loss. From experience, I can tell you that even if you don't actually post it to the blog. Putting it all down in words is very therapeutic. I have a blog post I wrote over a year ago and I have never posted it, but it feels good to go in and read it for myself again sometimes. Hang in there and know that we are thinking about you.

  10. So sorry to hear about your Grandpa.

    You know, a blog is PERSONAL. You write what you WANT to write - write what you are FEELING that day. If you are sad, happy, whatever. You are human, and experience feelings and life's ups and downs just like the rest of us. If you want to talk about what's going on in your life, do it. If not, don't. But please don't think you have to be funny all the time. Life isn't, so why should you?

    We'll be here for you no matter what you write and when you come back!

  11. Wendy, I'm so sorry to hear this. It sounds like a really hard time. Take care of yourself and give yourself permission to be unfunny. I do it all the time. I'll pray for peace and rest for your family.

  12. Very sorry to hear about your loss, Wendy. trying times indeed. going through similar experience right now.
    will keep you in my prayers.

  13. I never know what to say in situations like this . . . When I try I usually end up opening mouth and inserting foot . . . So I'll just say . . . Sending hugs your way. X's and O's.

  14. Aww, Wendy, I'm so sorry! I love you!

  15. I am VERY sorry.... :-( {{{hugs}}}


  16. I thought something was up when we hadn't heard from you for a while. Was hoping it was a vacay in Hawaii.

    So sorry.

    Best wishes, friend.

  17. It never gets easier, and it never leaves us, but greif is not our enemy. You take all the time you need, and remember you have the support and best wishes of all of us followers.
    God bless.

  18. Take care of yourself at this time. It's always awful, and there's nothing but cliches available, but I'm thinking of you.

  19. Hang in there and just remember everyone grieves differently in their own way and there is no wrong way. We all just need to respect each others feelings and reactions.

  20. I miss T, too. I know that when I get to see her kids, I'm going to have real trouble not falling completely to pieces.

    Sadness is part of life and some of the funniest moments come to lighten our grief. Maybe you could tell a funny story about your grandpa or your niece that shows how much you miss them. (And record for posterity a story for D and A to know about their mom, as well.)

  21. Sorry to hear of your loss.

    I think you should write whatever you feel like. You don't have to be funny all the time, you owe us nothing. I love the laughs you bring but I appreciated knowing other things going on in your life too. It isn't always easy to share the sad things in life.

    God bless you.


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